Is it that time of the week again? Looks like it is. Ten Intriguing Questions, from Berry Singh’s Monday Meme.
1. How do you deal with criticism?
That depends on how it’s dished out, and how much whatever is being criticised means to me. If it’s something I’m kind of sensitive about (or that I know I have an issue with) then I can get defensive about it, but I try to pull myself over that and recognise that the criticism isn’t of me, but of the thing I’m doing/have done. I’m also a firm believer in wording criticism very carefully, and only giving it when it’s requested (or when you know the person well enough to give it unasked-for).
2. What’s the most infuriating thing other SL residents do?
Assume that the other person they’re interacting with is an automaton, with no feelings, thoughts or emotions. I know those infuriating idiots are few and far between (although, start making stuff to sell and you’ll soon begin encountering more of them*) but it’s the one thing that frustrates me about SL. I get that there are language barriers, and I try to make allowances for that, but there’s a difference between someone who comes across as short with words (because English grammar is hellish for those that don’t have it as their native tongue) and those that are short with words simply because they’re rude little shits.
*This is not to say all customers are infuriating idiots, because of course they’re not! It’s just that, as a creator/merchant you tend to have more encounters with people like that than you do as a non-creator/merchant.
3. Which SL resident would you most like to have lunch with and why?
I know I sound like a broken record (heh) but the answer is my beloved boy, Daros Jewell. IRL we live thousands of miles apart, so the chance to sit and have lunch with him (especially if he’s cooking it!) would be the treat to end all treats :-)
4. Who would you say is your “anti” role model? Someone who serves as a warning rather than an inspiration?
I can’t think of any individual person in SL (and I wouldn’t name names over anything sensitive like that, anyway) but – in general – any number of the Drama Llamas who have shit like, “Fuck with me or my friends and I’ll fuck you up” in their profiles. How those people ever make friends in the first place is beyond me.
5. What was something you used to enjoy, but was ruined for you?
Too many roleplay sims that started out wonderfully, until either the GMs revealed themselves to be complete homophobes (“I don’t care if you roleplay a gay relationship that’s secret; that wouldn’t be tolerated in the location/era this sim is set in, and you WILL be found out and killed!” – because, Dear Reader, she would make damn SURE we were found out…) or other players were jealous that Daros and I (seasoned roleplayers, both) got a bit of attention (“I play the En Garde game all the time and you don’t; I’ll duel with you and the loser [that’ll be YOU!] has to leave the sim FOR GOOD!”) Sheesh.
6. What’s something you want to do that you’d be embarrassed to tell other people about?
In SL? *scratches head* I can’t really think of anything I want to do inworld that I would be embarrassed to talk about. There are things that I wouldn’t talk about for reasons of privacy (that being: they’re not things I would share anyway), but that’s a different matter altogether.
7. What’s the oddest term of endearment you’ve ever used or that someone’s used for you?
Can’t think of anything odd in SL, but one of my RL co-workers calls everyone ‘chicken’ – me included. Given that my signature on the old SL forums was “It always ends in chickens…” that usually makes me smile.
8. Have you ever fallen in love with another SL resident?
Yep, and I’m still with him and still love him. *sappy grin*
9. Describe a time/event in your slife that you’re nostalgic for.
Probably my early days, blundering around in total noobdom, asking Daros daft questions like, “What the hell is a prim?” and “Hey, where can I get a cock like that?!”
10. What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you?
Nothing for me, but (in case anyone talented at such things reads this) I would love for someone to make a gorgeous mesh birthday (not rezday) cake for Daros, with his name on it. (But shh! Don’t tell him!)
LOL @ where can I get a cock! I am sure I had lots of similar questions in my early days.
Well, it’s traumatic, rezzing without yer bits. He found bits and I wanted some of my own! ;-)
I’ve never understood the whole “mess with my family, I’ll mess you up” attitude, either. But it’s also a nice warning to steer clear of whomever puts that kind of thing in his/her profile!
Indeed, and I sometimes wonder if that isn’t half the purpose of it: to use their profiles in order to ward off contact from anyone but the friends and ‘family’ they trust. It does tend to scream out, “I have insecurity/trust issues! Don’t come near me!”